Hello, readers!
Sorry for being unable to publish new articles recently! I am happy to say I am a recent graduate of NJROTC's Leadership Academy, and I've been *WHOA* busy ever since I came home.
I just wanted to let yall (I live in Texas, remember?) be aware of what'll be happening soon. I have decided to leave the Dream Dealers writing team, and will be instead making my own blog to write about topics to avoid meandering in this one. The decision was difficult, but frankly, I did it out of respect for what Marilyn has going on here.
Don't worry, I won't be too far away. Once the blog is set up, I will be sure to link the site to this one. For now, I will remain the Dream Dealers' Editor until the end of July. I will withhold on writing articles until I can establish the blog. I hope to see you all soon!
~SQ
Monday, June 30, 2014
Drama Lama's Diva Days Part 1
~Let's take a journey together, and let reality mix with the dream realm~
For those days when no matter how nice you are,
you still end up with spit on your face.
So first off, I want to apologize for my tardiness in making articles - it's been busy trying to work on the blog while handling summer activities - but I assure you - right now I'm in the works of a huge article that is going to be beneficial to all of us in the long run! I will be gone from June 30 to July 7th but I'll have articles that will be released every Friday in my absence. Thank you for being patient, it means so much ;o; Anyways, this article will be a new segment, all about dealing with high school drama. I'd be lying to say that drama isn't going to pop up at any age or place in any form or extent. No matter how squeaky clean a person/club/group looks, you're going to come across some sticky situations - so if you guys have stories you'd like to tell - or get a second opinion on - feel free to email us at dreamdealersguestblogger@gmail.com; don't worry: everything will be anonymous. Please note that some details may be changed or censored/rephrased due to awkwardness in phrasing.
So this first story sent in from Aladdin called, "Blame Game."
I remember in Freshman year, I used to call this person my best friend. We were literally close until I got with my 3rd ex. She warned me so many times and I still didn't find anything wrong with him but yeah, I know I was young and stupid. Anyways, after I broke up with him she kept making accusations about my ex and I started getting really annoyed because he didn't do much. Then she started blaming me for things I didn't do- for not hanging out with her or blaming my ex for stealing something, then she would be like "Why are you so stupid?" She called me this one night and was threatening me of my personal relationship stuff. Seriously? You already f***ed up my relationship, even though it was a rebound and now your trying to f*** my life? I broke down so much I almost started cutting. I always had scissors with me and I'd stare at myself like, "what is life anymore?" Yeah. She, my ex and I don't speak to each other at all. ;-;
Sounds like you're in a tough quagmire there Aladdin! First things first, you should NEVER consider violating yourself because of anyone else or even your own reasons. Resorting to self-violence doesn't solve anything and it only creates more problems. I have no room to judge people who do or have cut, but one thing that you should note is, how would cutting benefit you anyways? The thing is, it doesn't. It's only a temporary fix for a problem, the thing with temporary fixes to problems is that it's like clogging up the sink - the problem doesn't magically go away. It gets worse when you leave it to sit until it eventually can't be held back and is released in a blind rampage. It's best to try to talk things out, even if you don't want to, this way you can sort out misunderstandings and cut them at their roots.
One thing that you should keep in mind is that there are different kinds of relationships -friendships, careerships, familyships, and loveships. Love comes in all different kinds of forms and types and people show their love in different ways. Sounds like you went through a total titanic moment between the three of you. I've got to say that relationships sometimes can get mixed up and get messy - we all go through it. There's always that one friendship where you and your friend like the same guy - or the opposite, where your friend doesn't like the guy you like and you have a clash because of it! Your friend sounds like she was trying to look out for you but ended up getting frustrated with you and the frustrations lead her to some sort of resentment that she kept locked up until she called you that night. It doesn't sound like this story ended on a good note - in fact it seems like everyone just ended up with llama spit on their faces. Try and make up with your friend - if you can't, just know that there are plenty of new friend and relationships out there in the future and that people are not always out to get you - sometimes accidents happen and you just have to make the most of what you have and keep moving forward.
So that is the first article in our series of Drama Lama's Diva Days. If your interested in sending in your story please emails us at dreamdealersguestblogger@gmail.com . Please fill it out to the most you can as short or long as you like! We can't wait to hear from you guys. :)
Subject -Title of Article/Your Nickname
Content-(Suggested Questions below)
Who is involved in this story(feel free to use nicknames)?
What happened? What did they do? What did you do in reaction to what they did?What is their relation to you?
When did this happen?
Where did this occur?
How did you react?
Why do you feel that the other party is in the wrong?
So this first story sent in from Aladdin called, "Blame Game."
I remember in Freshman year, I used to call this person my best friend. We were literally close until I got with my 3rd ex. She warned me so many times and I still didn't find anything wrong with him but yeah, I know I was young and stupid. Anyways, after I broke up with him she kept making accusations about my ex and I started getting really annoyed because he didn't do much. Then she started blaming me for things I didn't do- for not hanging out with her or blaming my ex for stealing something, then she would be like "Why are you so stupid?" She called me this one night and was threatening me of my personal relationship stuff. Seriously? You already f***ed up my relationship, even though it was a rebound and now your trying to f*** my life? I broke down so much I almost started cutting. I always had scissors with me and I'd stare at myself like, "what is life anymore?" Yeah. She, my ex and I don't speak to each other at all. ;-;
Sounds like you're in a tough quagmire there Aladdin! First things first, you should NEVER consider violating yourself because of anyone else or even your own reasons. Resorting to self-violence doesn't solve anything and it only creates more problems. I have no room to judge people who do or have cut, but one thing that you should note is, how would cutting benefit you anyways? The thing is, it doesn't. It's only a temporary fix for a problem, the thing with temporary fixes to problems is that it's like clogging up the sink - the problem doesn't magically go away. It gets worse when you leave it to sit until it eventually can't be held back and is released in a blind rampage. It's best to try to talk things out, even if you don't want to, this way you can sort out misunderstandings and cut them at their roots.
One thing that you should keep in mind is that there are different kinds of relationships -friendships, careerships, familyships, and loveships. Love comes in all different kinds of forms and types and people show their love in different ways. Sounds like you went through a total titanic moment between the three of you. I've got to say that relationships sometimes can get mixed up and get messy - we all go through it. There's always that one friendship where you and your friend like the same guy - or the opposite, where your friend doesn't like the guy you like and you have a clash because of it! Your friend sounds like she was trying to look out for you but ended up getting frustrated with you and the frustrations lead her to some sort of resentment that she kept locked up until she called you that night. It doesn't sound like this story ended on a good note - in fact it seems like everyone just ended up with llama spit on their faces. Try and make up with your friend - if you can't, just know that there are plenty of new friend and relationships out there in the future and that people are not always out to get you - sometimes accidents happen and you just have to make the most of what you have and keep moving forward.
So that is the first article in our series of Drama Lama's Diva Days. If your interested in sending in your story please emails us at dreamdealersguestblogger@gmail.com . Please fill it out to the most you can as short or long as you like! We can't wait to hear from you guys. :)
Subject -Title of Article/Your Nickname
Content-(Suggested Questions below)
Who is involved in this story(feel free to use nicknames)?
What happened? What did they do? What did you do in reaction to what they did?What is their relation to you?
When did this happen?
Where did this occur?
How did you react?
Why do you feel that the other party is in the wrong?
Until next time dreamers, sweet dreams.
~Marilyn Nguyen
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